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When I look back at the beginning of my mindset journey, I don’t think it started with a goal. I think it started with awareness.

Growing up, I always had big dreams. I was that child who could imagine herself becoming anything. I think a lot of us are like that when we’re younger, we dream without limits. We imagine all the things we want to achieve, the person we want to become and the life we want to create.

But as we grow older, our passions can change depending on our environment, our experiences and the different chapters life takes us through.

For me, the biggest mindset shift came when I became a first-time mother at 19.

That was the moment life became real.

It was no longer just about the dreams I had for myself. I had a little human being who relied on me. Someone who needed me to show up, to be responsible and to grow.

I knew then that I couldn’t just float through life anymore. I had to start taking myself, my choices and my future seriously.

Looking back, I was fortunate to have a childhood where my mum supported me and invested in my dreams. She always encouraged me to explore my interests. From the age of 8, I attended drama school and continued until the end of primary school. I was always exploring different passions and imagining different versions of myself.

Of course, like many young people, my dreams changed. Sometimes I wanted to follow whatever passion felt exciting at the time, whatever was inspiring me in that season of my life.

But becoming a mother changed the way I viewed everything.

It made me look at myself differently.

I started to notice parts of myself that needed healing and growth. I became more aware of my insecurities. After giving birth, I struggled with how I saw myself physically. I didn’t recognise the woman looking back at me. I felt overwhelmed, tired and like I was carrying so much responsibility.

There were friendships I thought would last forever that naturally changed. Some people I thought would always be there were no longer part of my journey. But I also had to be honest with myself, I had started distancing myself too.

At the time I didn’t realise it, but I was changing.

I was entering a new chapter of my life, and sometimes growth means outgrowing things you once felt comfortable in.

The more I questioned myself, the further I felt from who I really was. The self-doubt started to grow, and slowly I felt like I was becoming disconnected from the person I knew I could be.

But I also want to acknowledge the people who helped me through that chapter.

I was blessed to have a strong support system around me. My immediate family were always there when I needed them, and my husband noticed the changes in me. Instead of walking away or ignoring what I was feeling, he took the time to listen and understand my worries.

And honestly, sometimes that is all someone needs to feel heard.

That support helped me start rebuilding the trust I had lost in myself.

I started trusting myself as a mother. I started trusting my decisions. I started believing that even though life felt overwhelming, I was still moving forward.

The journey wasn’t perfect. There were days where progress looked like doing the bare minimum. But I learned something important:

Progress doesn’t always look like huge achievements.

Sometimes progress is simply choosing yourself again.

Sometimes progress is getting through a difficult day and still showing up.

Sometimes progress is taking one small step towards the woman you know you can become.

And that was the beginning of my awareness.

Before I could change my life, I had to first become aware of where I was, who I was becoming and what parts of myself I needed to rebuild.

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